Dating Advice

Written by Australia's best dating coaches

The Future of Dating Services in Australia

By Singles Events

The normalisation of online dating has opened up the door to dating services as consumers now see this as widely accepted. While online dating is definitely the leader in revenue growth other dating services have also greatly benefited from this change in the way we meet people and find love.

Offline dating such as singles events, dating coaching and matchmaking have all seen great success in this new wave of “dating acceptance” as people turn to these alternatives for assistance with finding a partner/s.

While online dating services give the consumer access to a larger pool of potential matches offline dating services allow for greater matching capabilities not possible with software matching systems offered by online dating.

The increasing popularity of the dating services in Australia has driven business upwards over the past five years. However, the majority of the dating services industry revenue can be credited to the growth of the major online dating companies such as Rsvp, Oasis, eHarmony.

Fortunately the dating industry in Australia is forecasted to grow over the next five years, powered by the increasing popularity of online dating. However, the amount of growth is forecasted to slow as competition increases. To overcome this, industry operators are anticipated to continue expansion by expanding their services offline by branching out into offline services by hosting singles events and similar offline activities.

This may just be an exciting time for singles events and other offline activities, so we’re looking forward to the years to come. For more info about Singles Events kindly click here

The Importance of Dating Around  

By Singles Events

 

In the words of Billie Holiday, “A kiss that is never tasted is forever and ever wasted.” With the hot thrills of dating, you’ll often crave to sample all the treats. This is not to say that you should gobble every desert on the table! Rather, you should select a variety of delights that interest you, and take the time to indulge in the individual flavors. When you discover a type that you genuinely like, you can then invest your time into nurturing that match.

When you date around, you get a valuable opportunity to understand more what you want and learn about your personal identity as a mate. Now you might be thinking, “wait a sec— Isn’t it sleazy to date multiple people at once?” Absolutely not!

There is definitely a stigma attached to dating multiple people because it’s often advised to focus on one individual at a time. Well, this is not necessarily a better approach. Firstly, you cannot always be certain that the person with whom you have decided to invest all your efforts is on the same page. As a result, you may be pursuing someone who is intent on blasting through her options instead of nesting with you. And that’s fine—many people prefer to browse without being a buyer. The only caution to exercise is knowing when to quit and to notice if the dates are about their needs than yours. If this is the case, you need to devise a smarter dating game plan. This means developing a more relaxed and flexible dating style that also allows you to exercise your options as well, instead of sacrificing your emotions all at once.

 

Now let’s look at the amazing benefits of experiencing many people at once.

 

Self discovery

By casually dating a few people, you’ll welcome more opportunities for self-discovery. During this process, you can date around and develop a stronger sense of what you like rather than rolling-over-backwards to be the right one for someone else. You can also learn to value yourself as a desirable and experienced dater. The bottom line is that you need to see the dating process as your opportunity to discover your needs and wants, and focus less on becoming what other people want. The more you learn about your personal dating goals and desires, the more confident you will become later on when choosing a potential mate.

 

Desirability

Dating around will also help you appear more desirable to others. This is because the best way to sell yourself as a great catch is to act like one. So, if you want to be alluring to your dates, you should give the impression that you’re already leading a fulfilling life. Whether this means you’re occupied with some glamorous job or other dates, it does not really matter—just appear busy. While you may or may not actually have these diversions, you should always create the appearance of having them. You can create this illusion by pretending to have plans on certain days of the week or taking some time between text messages ( 20-30 minutes is reasonable). While this may seem silly, people who have successful and dynamic lives will usually be too distracted to respond immediately or always be ready for plans. Overall, this active image makes you more compelling and desirable to the opposite sex.

 

Sociability

The last reason you should date around is quite simple: you can make new friends. Throughout your journey to find romance, you’ll see that not everyone clicks with you. Sometimes it can be nice to preserve friendships with these people because you can still share interests and experiences, inviting more happiness into your life. You should also remember that dates do not always have to be about sexual chemistry. Once in a while, it can just simply be fun to go out and enjoy drinks and solid conversation. Cheers!

 

With all these positive forces at work, there is no reason you should shy away from dating multiple people at once. Of course, when you meet that special one, you can consider slowing things down, but in the meantime, you need to explore. So, lay back and enjoy dating and all the great perks it has to offer! Dating around and scoping out different prospects create new and fresh experiences and we can use these moments to grow and learn more about ourselves as we muddle through the modern dating scene. Good luck and all the best!

Punching Above your Weight

By Singles Events

 

The issue of desirability with online dating can always be a tricky and sometimes awkward conversation. With the pressure to stand out among the masses of profiles, people will often lie on their profile to appear more attractive. This online misconduct can include sprucing-up a physical description or digitally enhancing a display picture with all those fancy mobile filters—all done with the intention of being contacted more. This is just wrong, deceiving and completely pointless! The harsh truth is that lying will not improve your chances of finding a relationship and will ultimately just waste the time and energy of the person who was tricked into pursuing you… Yes, tricked!

 

Some people believe a lie can be developed with “good intentions” because they are hoping their date will look past a few exaggerated details to see how great and special they are. Wrong! Newsflash– this is not reality—attraction matters and so does lying. So, not only will your date be annoyed, he or she will also be completely creeped-out!

 

With this in mind, what’s the point of enhancing your profile to get more dates if you’re not genuinely attractive to these people in the first place? If these people are pursuing you based on an initial attraction that isn’t real, the date will likely be short-lived or just plain awkward. Many people report instances where they went on a date through an online dating site, and discovered that that their date lied about height or body type—apparently 5’7 can mean 5’2!? While these accounts seem shallow and harsh, the ugly truth is that you cannot charm someone into liking you after deceiving them online. Not only will they be turned off by your blatant dishonesty, they will also place less trust and credibility into online dating, essentially ruining the whole process for everyone else.

 

So, instead of presenting yourself differently on your dating profile, you should try to understand why you might feel tempted to do this. If you feel pressured to bend the truth, you might have to start questioning whether you’re implementing all the right strategies to make yourself attractive in real life. Perhaps there are some changes that must be made, so you can feel more confident about your personal attractiveness. This is not to say that you need to fit a cliché or standard of desirability. However, you may want to consider improving some of your assets to make yourself feel like a stronger candidate for online dating.

Ultimately, you want someone to pursue you, while knowing you were being your true self. This way, you’ll know that the attraction is mutual and the whole process is clean-cut and truthful. After all, the most promising start to a relationship is when the first date begins with honesty and nothing less.

Why you Should Never Settle for Unfulfilling Relationships

By Singles Events

Growing up with romantic comedies and soap operas sets a high standard for relationships these days and most people end up feeling that their own experiences are somehow unfulfilling. But there’s another side to that story that you really need to be aware of.

Are you happy in your relationship?

The one thing that romantic movies do get right is the fact you should feel happy with your significant other. You need to be honest and ask yourself if what you’re getting from your relationship is truly worth the effort you put in every day.

Sometimes things just don’t work out and being brave enough to call it quits at the right time will save you a whole lot of grief.

Is your Relationship Beyond Salvation?

Fighting for your relationship is absolutely necessary, but what you need to figure out is if you have already tried to save it one too many times already.

Even if both partners give it their best shot, some relationships just don’t feel right and finding the cause might be an intricate matter. It could come down to something as uncontrollable as timing, so don’t ever expect to find one single guilty party.

As sad as it might be to realize that your relationship is beyond salvation, it has the potential of making you figure out what you need to do next.

What are you missing?

As difficult as it might seem, you need to remember how you were like before you got into this relationship. Looking at some old pictures might jolt your memory and help you understand what made you happy and what you used to think was fun.

You can even take a trip with your friends, to revisit some of those things. Give yourself time. Finally, you need to think whether or not these were those things that you’ve been missing and if your partner was what has been holding you back from doing them all this time.

Do You Fear Loneliness?

You shouldn’t settle for an unfulfilling relationship just because you’re afraid of being alone. Realizing that this is the main reason why you are still in a relationship should be a wake-up call. You need to work out the courage to put an end to your misery and that of your partner.

Sadly, this is actually the main reason why people choose to stay together even when they know that things are not working out as they should be.

Being single doesn’t necessarily mean being alone. I know, I know, breaking up after several years of ‘couple life’ can be gut wrenching, but so is being unhappy in your relationship. The good news is that the sadness goes away after a while and it will give you so much room to grow.

Finding another partner after losing a long time sweetheart seems almost impossible, but it actually isn’t. Your next relationship is just around the corner and it will sweep you off your feet when you least expect it.

Even if it takes a while to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right, don’t lose hope, settle or give into peer pressure. There is someone out there for you. If you’re reluctant to jump back to normal dating you can also experiment with online dating for a while. Good luck!

 

Useful Do’s and Don’ts for a Perfect Online Dating Profile

By Singles Events

When it comes to online dating, creating a dazzling online persona is absolutely crucial. No matter how great you are offline, you need to be amazing online to make a difference in the digital world. So, here are a few tips and tricks to make your perfect profil!

DON’T : Use overly Photoshopped pictures of yourself

Online dating gives you the opportunity to focus on your strong suites and delicately conceal your flaws. But while embellishing a bit here and there is entirely acceptable, you should never hide behind convenient lies, because the truth has a nasty habit of coming out when you least expect it.

The best possible example for these “convenient lies” we get wrapped up in is using overly edited pictures of ourselves on the dating profile. This is a bad idea because it might make you appeal to the wrong crowd and even if all goes well and you get to go on a date with you cyber crush, he/she might be disappointed that you are not who you promised to be.

DO: Use your best (recent) pictures

If you’re building your online dating profile and you realize that you’re out of good pictures of yourself, don’t panic! As tempting as it might be, don’t open that folder from five years ago when you were 10 pounds slimmer. That’s almost like Catfishing and you know it!

Instead, you can try taking some brand new photos. You can even make a night out of it! Call some friends over and put on your favorite dress. Get your hair done, put on makeup and snap away until you get that perfect profile picture!

DON’T: Use steamy pictures of yourself (unless you’re looking to hookup)

People who use pictures of themselves in their bathing suits or lingerie for their online dating profiles send out a very clear message. They need to be aware of that, so that they know what to expect.

If what you’re looking to get from online dating is a hot fling, then this might be one way of doing it, but bear in mind that some things should be left to the imagination.

DO: Use pictures that you are comfortable with

If some of your most flattering pictures make you cringe, that is a sign that you should probably not upload them to your online dating profile. Being comfortable with the pictures you put up is a minimum requirement.

Make a selection of the best pictures of yourself and choose those that you really like and that express your personality.

DON’T: Be vague or overly professional

Writing that perfect online dating profile is hard work, so you need to wait until you actually feel inspired to complete it. You don’t want one of those profile that has pictures and almost no written information, because there are people out there who are struggling to get to know you.

Focus on your hobbies and interests, rather than your professional background. While your job is definitely something you should mention, try to make it more about yourself, your wishes and desires, rather than your career.

DO: Be sincere and have fun with it

Building an online dating profile might prove to be even more complicated than writing you resume. Don’t over think the information you put into it because it’s going to end up sounding weird.

Instead, try to write your profile when you’re in a good mood, so that you can transmit that through your words. Make it easy to read, rather than overly complicated, and have fun with it!

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Online Dating After 30

By Singles Events

Once you blow your 30 perfectly-arranged candles, you cease to be a ‘twenty-something year-old’ and enter a completely new stage of your life. Things like crazy parties, hooking up with unknown dudes (or dudettes) and taking three shots of tequila one after the other suddenly sound less appealing. Your mind is puzzled by important questions related to marriage, career fulfilment and kids.

“There’s this really unique thing that happens in your thirties. You really begin refining and enriching your life, and gaining career traction so you are where you want to be in your forties.” – Psychologist Kristen Carpenter, PhD

That sounds great, doctor Kristen, but what am I supposed to do if I’m still single? Dating in your thirties is hard. Heck, even when I was in my twenties dating felt uncomfortable and awkward. Nevertheless, I keep coming back to my Tinder and online dating profiles because the idea of growing old with three cat companions just isn’t my kind of happily ever after. When you’re in your 30s, the rules and expectations of dating are completely different, so if you want to get back into the game, here’s my advice:

1. Own Up to Yourself

You have been on this planet for over thirty years. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not anymore. You are who you are, and that’s it. If you feel like embellishing your profile or presenting yourself as something you’re not, please don’t. This façade will crack into a million pieces sooner or later. One of the things I love most about being in my thirties is the fact that saying no to the things I don’t like has become so much easier.

2. Bluntness is King

When you’re in your twenties, it’s all about the game, but once you hit the thirties mark, you no longer have time for trivialities. Want to go out with that guy? Want to send her a text right after the date? Want to stop seeing that chick? Stop beating around the bush. Just say it.

3. Don’t Hold out for Perfection

After having waited so long for that perfect someone you’re can’t just settle, right? Wrong. If you’ve been on the prowl for Mr. (or Mrs.) right for more than ten years, but haven’t find him/her yet, well, that’s because he/she doesn’t exist.

“You’re not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn’t perfect either. But the question is whether or not you’re perfect for each-other. That’s what intimacy is all about.” – Robin Williams, Good Will Hunting

Compromising isn’t the same as settling, but as you will probably find out sooner or later, you have to let some frivolous things go if you really want make a relationship work.

4. Shut up Already

I went on a date with a Tinder guy recently. My God, he wouldn’t stop talking. He basically shared his whole life story with me in less than an hour. If you’re the type of person who overshares, you need to stop. Don’t talk about marriage and children from the first date. People need to earn the privilege of hearing your story. Listening has become some sort of lost art that very few people can master. If you want a meaningful relationship listen more than you talk, be genuine and humble.

5. Quickly Ditch the Dead-Ends

I’m pretty sure you’ve met your fair share of people who have been archived in the ‘Never-Again’ or ‘What Was I Thinking?’ folders of your mind. You know what you want from a partner and you don’t have the time to fix someone else’s daddy issues. That’s perfectly fine. The last thing you need in your life right now is a toxic relationship.

You can definitely find love after 30, but you need to set clearer boundaries, be honest to yourself and redefine your priorities. Hopefully my advice will help.

How to Approach Girls Online without Looking like a Creep

By Singles Events

In the fast paced world of online dating, there is no room for mistakes; and looking like a creep is almost always a deal breaker, so release your inhibitions and try to say what you mean instead of what you think girls would want to hear.

Step 1. Always read the girl’s profile

There you are in you PJs at home browsing online profiles, when all of a sudden you see this very cute girl. You click away through her pictures and you simply cannot take your eyes off her.

Naturally, you realize that you simply have to talk to her and you click the message box and type in “Hi!”. Then, there’s this blank in your head because you have no idea what to say to her because you know absolutely nothing about her.

At this point, you have two choices; you can keep on writing some generic question like “How are you?” or you can actually go back and read the girl’s profile.

All the information you need is right there! You can find out who she is and what her hobbies and preferences are and then, you can definitely come up with something better than “How are you?”

She is bound to appreciate that you spent the time reading her profile and will be tempted to read more about you. A little bit might go a long way in this case.

Step 2. Take a hint…

So you found your girl, you did your homework and you wrote her a message that you’re proud of. This is the full extent of your first move. If she likes you, she will definitely write back, but if she doesn’t, then that’s it.

No matter how pretty she is, no matter how perfect she might seem because she loves the same movies and computer games that you do, do not write to her again under any circumstance! You can go from “sweet for trying” to “creep” in a second, so cut your losses and move on!

Also, try not to obsess over her and start checking her profile on a daily basis, because there are some sites out there that show her who’s been visiting her profile and you could get yourself in a very embarrassing situation.

Step 3. Keep the conversation playful and just the right amount of flirty

If she does write back, you’ve got it made! Well, almost. It definitely does mean that she’s interested and it’s up to you to show her that you are dating material.

Don’t be a chatterbox when talking to her, try to keep up with the pace that she sets. If she writes one message and you reply with seven, then you are clearly doing something wrong!

Be playful and subtlety flirty, and avoid being cheesy. Before pressing send, ask yourself if any of the guys from The Big Band Theory or Barney Stinson would say what you wrote to her and if the answer is yes, then delete, delete, delete! She doesn’t know you well enough to know that you might mean some things sarcastically.

Step 4. Get to know her before you ask her out

If you want her to say yes to date, then you have to make her curious to know you. Talk to her for a few days and make her get used to receiving messages from you. When she starts writing you first, that is the perfect time to ask her out for a coffee.

Again, you have to know to take hint at this point, but if she says yes, then you’re in for a romantic evening!

 

The Ultimate Guide to Breaking up with Heartbreak

By Singles Events

The devastating pain of a failed relationship is, without a doubt, one of the greatest suffering that your heart will ever have to bear. There’s nothing pleasant or comforting in having to break up with someone. The entire ordeal is even worse if you’re the one getting dumped. But despite the mind-numbing pain, there is a bitter-sweet happiness in breaking up: the fact that you were able to feel so intensely about someone.

As someone once said, ‘to really live is to die’, and when all is said and done, you have to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and move on with your life. The following tips will help you break up with heartbreak once and for all, and prepare for the next relationship.

1. Embrace the Pain

If you love enough, you will suffer. This is the unavoidable truth. Nobody will be able to understand or alleviate your pain. When you lose someone dear it’s important that you feel bad about it, as it is an essential step to healing. There’s nothing wrong in crying.

As a matter of fact, very few people can get over a break-up without shedding tears, and bottling up your feelings will only make things more difficult. Give yourself time, but be careful to not get trapped in the vicious cycle of painful memories. If you do, you must break it. This leads us to advice number 2.

2. Make a Change (Or Several Changes)

The memories of your past relationship are haunting your present. Your unconscious mind triggers pain every time you relive something from your relationship (example: hearing your favourite tune on the radio might remind you of him/her). In order to break this pattern you have to sever these connections. Take up a new hobby. Change your playlist. Move furniture around the house. These changes don’t have to be major or permanent. They’re meant to help you get over your pain.

3. Change your Mindset

If you’re finding it excruciatingly difficult to get over someone you might have to change your mindset. In other words, you have to change your definition of heartbreak. If it is making you feel lonely and hopeless, redefine your personal beliefs. Instead of viewing it as ‘the end of happiness’, think about it as an opportunity of finding someone more suitable for you, or becoming a better person. Being able to see your situation with a different frame will give you an incredible sense of freedom.

4. Fall out of Love & Stop Blaming Yourself

The fact that you are heartbroken means that you are still in love. To complete the healing process you have to detach yourself from your ex. You can fall out of love with a person by visualizing your bad experiences with him/her. Try to remember all the details of your happiest romantic experiences and look at them objectively.

It takes to people to break up, so stop blaming yourself for all the little things that went wrong. Where you so blinded by love that you didn’t notice ‘the bad’? Concentrate on this exercise methodically, and before you know it, your feelings of love, yearning and regret will be erased.

5. Understand that you Will Find Love Again

Many people believe that their ex is the only person they will ever love, or who could ever love them. Considering that there are over six billion people on the planet, this is highly unlikely. One of the best ways to break up with heartbreak is by visualizing a brighter tomorrow. Your new habits and a positive mindset will help you open the door to a new love.

As I final note, I would like to say that I don’t believe in such a thing as a ‘better half’. We are not halves to begin with. Every person is a unique and fascinating entity, and losing someone cannot change that. Positive reinforcement, self-love and self-acceptance are vital on your road to recovery.

Barriers to Love that Smart Women Unknowingly Create

By Singles Events

There are so many smart, ambitious, lovely, single females out there, who can’t find a partner despite their best efforts. Why is that? Many women will argue that men aren’t interested in having an intelligent, career-drive woman on their arm, because they feel threatened, or because it would be easier for them to settle for an obedient one. While this may be true, studies have shown that modern, educated individuals are extremely attracted to smart women. These men aren’t interested only in physical appearance. They crave intellectual engagement, interesting conversations and powerful bonds forged through mutual respect.

This can only mean one thing: smart women are sabotaging their relationships without knowing it. I am surrounded by incredible ladies who are still single, but after having taken a closer look at their past relationships I could only find one common factor: themselves. Instead of analysing what went wrong, they would immediately catalogue their ex-partners as ‘losers’. So instead of talking about how society is doing you wrong, I would like to share useful advice that will help you look at relationships differently and break down the barriers that you are unknowingly creating.

1. You Never Truly Believed that you are Beautiful

This is an age-old problem that most women face. For an unknown reason, women will believe any negative comment addressed to them, but never a positive one. So despite the fact those close to them will remind them time and time again that they are beautiful, they are forever haunted by the idea that they aren’t ‘good enough’.

  • ‘How can he say I’m beautiful when I have cellulite?’
  • ‘My nose is crooked’
  • ‘My thighs are too big’
  • ‘I’m not perfect, how can I be beautiful?’

The insatiable desire to become perfect – amplified to the verge of insanity in the case of ambitious women-, while also knowing that this is impossible, gave birth to an incredibly dangerous monster: insecurity. This monster feeds on the images of airbrushed models, Cosmopolitan cover girls, and unattainable beauty standards set by society. This damaging mentality makes women downplay their worth and settle for unfulfilling relationships.

How to fix this: The first thing you need to understand is that men are also battling insecurities, and that the terms beauty and imperfect aren’t mutually exclusive. Furthermore, you should stop comparing yourself to other women.

“Another woman’s beauty is not the absence of your own.”

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”

If all women had the same type of beauty, would it still be called beauty? Just as we are attracted by different features in men, so are they fascinated with the various ‘imperfections’ that make up our being.

Smart women are also insecure when it comes to physical appearance, but they wear their intelligence as armour – thus, another wall is built. If you want to find love, you must first learn to love every fibre of your being (with all its scars and imperfections).

2. You Need to Stop Overthinking

All women are masters of overanalysing, but smart women have that extra brainpower that enables them to twist themselves into millions of little knots of doubt. Details that are screamingly obvious to you, will, more often than not, blow past your man like a Frisbee in a hurricane.

How to fix it: I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with analysing your romantic encounters, but drawing conclusions based on limited data or subtle hints, especially if you have a creative mind, can be very damaging to your relationship. Men may be superficial when it comes to physical appearance, but in all other aspects they are serious, so you should try to take them by their word instead of playing detective.

3. He’s Your Lover, not Your Rival

Intelligent women are, naturally, attracted to intelligent men. They want to engage in stimulating conversations, drink fine wines, and learn new things. Needless to say, men that she considers less intelligent will bore her to tears. However, once she begins a relationship with Mister Smarty-pants, the whole thing transforms into a competition. Before you know it, the one thing that made Mister Smarty-pants so attractive to her is causing a great deal of tension.

How to fix it: What smart women should understand is that love isn’t a contest, and intelligence isn’t the only redeeming quality of a man. Learn to appreciate Mister Smarty-pants for everything he has to offer and celebrate all the things you can learn from one-another.

4. Love Isn’t a Top Priority for You

Hell, it might not even be in your top 3. The idea of having a partner sounds charming, but there’s always a project or paper that needs to be completed before you can think about it. Love should never be an afterthought. Dating and romance require a great deal of effort and time, and anyone who has a meaningful relationship will tell you that it should be the most important part of your life.

How to fix it: You can’t expect prince charming to dash into your life and say ‘Oh, I found you!”, and even if this happens, you will never truly appreciate him unless you go through the trials and tribulations of unfulfilled relationships. Smart guys will immediately know where on your priority list they are, and they will NOT settle.

5. Don’t Underplay your Feminine Charms

Just because you’re smart doesn’t mean that you can’t be feminine. Men gravitate towards feminine behaviour or features (examples: your long hair, the nape of your neck, your sexuality, feminine curves, big eyes etc.). Take pleasure in your body and in everything that you do with it.

Also, you might not enjoy asking a man for help, but the need to protect is so deeply engrained into his being that he will feel completely useless if he believes that you don’t need him. He is fully aware that you are capable of running your own company or performing open heart surgery, but let him be the one to open doors for you, or give you massages. Be receptive, joyful, and compassionate. Love is a two-way street.

Emotional walls come from a legitimate place. They represent the sum of emotions and experiences that define our existence, and it can be very difficult to overcome them or to learn new ways. Give yourself time to change.

Actionable Steps to Help Your Dating Success

By Singles Events

With the endless online dating advice out there, it can be confusing for today’s singles to steer smoothly through this crazy traffic-filled world of modern dating. So, how do we navigate through all this information and media buzz to figure out what truly works? Well, you can forget about all the rumors and games that you’ve heard. If you want real lasting results, there’s 5 simple things you need to know.

In truth,  there’s no quick fix or magic ebook when it comes to successful dating. Yet, there are some simple rules you can take toward personal self improvement. This initiative is 100% guaranteed to lift your dating life (tried and tested with thousands of people world wide) if embraced with an open heart and full commitment. By following these rules, you will have the ability of attracting the quality people you really want and need in your life and to ultimately find your future Prince or Princess!

Here are the 5 steps to dating success.  

1.Inner game 

Always be the best person you can possibly be!

This step is the most important. Having a strong inner game means knowing who you are and how to steer the wheel in your own life. People who are the most successful at inviting meaningful connections into their lives are the ones who stay positive and emit a good energy. So, without a strong handle on things such as your emotions, your ego and your overall frame of mind, you can invite all sorts of troubles.

For example, if you constantly stress over past events or the possibility of future problems, you will inevitably hold yourself back from being happy. You will also hinder your personal growing process in the dating game. This is why it’s important to maintain a rock-solid ego and never let minor setbacks or irrational anxieties prevent you from getting what you want. There is no room for self-loathing or uncertainly in the dating game; you must always focus on the positive to preserve a healthy mindset at all times.

This is the deep stuff every person needs to work on because it’s the most important. We all know that re-wiring your brain and changing is never easy, but the pay-off is truly amazing and can benefit you in literally every part of your life! The most desirable people, both male and female, have the strongest inner game and are very certain about who they are and what they want!

You can also think about it this way: If the measure of your life was the total sum of all your life’s choices, what would you add up to?

This is why improving your love life comes from within. When you can exhibit moxie and smoothness, you will be able charm those around you, inviting more promising opportunities for love. 

2.Style

First impressions fade, but style makes an impression that lasts forever. This guide can be broken down into four categories. Grooming, Clothes, Accessories and Apartment/your room.

 Grooming

Self-care is a crucial part of your appearance and starts with your hair all the way down to your tootsies (this includes teeth hygiene, so keep your smile nice and fresh). Be meticulous about all the little details when creating the full package. If you’re a guy, you may ask yourself if you’re sporting a quality hair cut or if your boots are shined and mint. If you’re a lady, you may consider things such as your nails and outfit choices.

Clothes

For guys, it’s best to spend a bit more and get fitted apparel that suits your shape. Keep this in mind: two great shirts are better than twenty sub-par duds.  The same goes for T-shirts, jackets/jumpers and jeans. When it comes to shoes, you need to be extra picky as your footwear can make or break an outfit. To play it safe, stick with earth tones and always match your shoes to your belt.

Accessories

Even if you’re not the biggest fan of Jewellery, there are tons of simple, understated pieces that can really amp-up your look. For instance, a crisp belt or a nice watch (or what can pass as a nice watch) is important because is suggests style and status. Also, for guys, jewelry can look highly masculine when done right. You can go for cool rustic pieces made with leather or hemp for a cool laid-back look.

Apartment/Room

There’s nothing worse than a messy space. Part of impressing others is taking pride in your personal environment.  It also helps when the new person you’re dating doesn’t question whether your toilet has been cleaned since the GST was introduced. The rest is pretty self-explanatory– just respect to your friends and guests.

 3.Career/work

 People who are passionate about their work are far more desirable because they exude airs of confidence and pride. On the other hand, people who dislike their work are more likely to appear dull and uninteresting. Think about the man who strides into the office every day with a sharp blazer and a charming grin, or the woman whose zest for her career is matched by her hot stilettos– these are the people who light up the dating stage.  By becoming more career-oriented, you will create a more impressive vibe, building richer interactions with others.

For guys, this is an especially attractive quality. Women adore men who have direction in their life and know what they want or are already doing it. The world has yet to meet a quality woman who disagrees. So, make it a priority to manage your schedule for success.

 4.Your interests/passions/social life

 Your interests are a vital part of who you are. People are always more attracted to those who exhibit a firm sense of their identity. This is why you should consider the messages you send to  others. Do you display a positive taste for life and a self-assured presence, or are do you seem introverted and slap on any old duds before heading out?

Taste matters. Without passions, likes (or dislikes) and opinions, you will not possess substance. Otherwise, how can you expect anyone to be interested in you?

If you do not currently have strong interests or hobbies, you should learn to play piano, join a club, read a book, watch tutorials, anything!!Just do something!

Sorry, but if your main focuses are drinking beer, watching footy and going fishing, you are going to need some refinement, ok?

5.Health/Physical appearance

 This step is at the bottom because it’s quite personal and subjective. Also, your physical appearance is not your main priority for improving your dating game as your first focus should be making adjustments deep within yourself. However, caring about your health and physical appearance also conveys the impression that you love yourself and your body. For this reason, we can’t ignore the importance of these factors when attracting others. Ultimately, the main target here is to respect yourself by eating right and always try to look your best, doing what you realistically can to maximize your results.

Now you’re going to need to know how to meet people, right?

Stay tuned for our next article, which will address great places and tips for meeting great people..

Coming soon: We will be covering everything on this list in details with tips, guides and resources to help you become even more awesome!

Avoiding Online Dating Disappointment

By Singles Events

Online dating can sometimes feel a bit daunting since you’ll never know 100% who you’re talking to or whether their profile is truly accurate. To help prevent these online dating blunders, this article will carefully guide you through this process, saving you time and energy. However, you should keep in mind that there are no quick magic tricks for successful online dating, but only some practical rules to help you find the right person.

1. Don’t put all your eggs into one basket

As the age-old saying goes, you should not invest all your attention into one person– at least not at the beginning. This does not imply that you should date ten different people at once. It also does not mean you should create a dozen dating profiles and select open relationship on your status. Yet, you should consider the possibility that the person who you’ve decided is going to get 100% of your attention might not feel the same way and could very well be juggling multiple dates. In fact, the chances of this occurrence are quite probably in the online dating scene since people can easily access several conversions at once. This is why it’s irresponsible to invest all your energy into one person before the relationship status is official. It’s important to stop and consider whether the other person shares your feelings before jumping forward.

2. Make sure you know the signs

Profile

Having a bad profile is like having a bad resume. Would you hire this person to spend time with them? It’s important to study people’s dating profiles and learn how to read between the lines! For example, if you see loads of spelling mistakes and vague content that is poorly written, you may question that person’s level of commitment to finding genuine love. Also, if you notice any negativity or complaints about the past, you can assume the person may be carrying baggage.

General

Another common sign that should steer you away is if the person is always online. Perhaps, you’ll want to ask yourself why they’re always online and how sincere their intentions are for dating. Quality online daters will usually log on briefly a couple times a day during the week and on weekends, they might not even log on. So, you can assume people who are chronically online may be juggling their options instead of seeking an authentic connection.

Photos

The photo can say a lot about the person’s approach to dating. For instance, a drunken blurry photo or topless beach photo may indicate that the person is not taking online dating seriously. Here are some other factors to watch out for:

1.Old photos that misrepresent the person’s current appearance. There are simple ways to check if this is the case. For instance, if they’re in a photo taken overseas, you can casually ask them when they were there last.

2. Photos that are cropped to reveal just the person’s head may indicate that they’re hiding something.

3. Strange angle selfie photos, especially ones taken from over the head and from an angle. This perspective can give a false impression of the person’s attractiveness.

Two step screen process

There is a simple two-step process for screening potential crazies or frauds. First, you can determine someone’s sanity by engaging in conversation before asking him or her on a date. Then, if you like what you’re learning about the person, you can politely ask if they have more photos: “Hey I was just wondering if you have any more photos? You’ve only got selfless haha”… Chances are if you ask nicely, they will agree! If they become angry or offended by the question, they may be hiding information. This will help you avoid people with fake profiles.

Important!

Watch out for people who get offended easily or are quick to become angry or judgmental, especially in a non-playful way. Remember that friends are meant to make us feel good about ourselves. So, if someone is making you feel uncomfortable, block this person fast!

 

3. Ignoring your intuition

Have you ever been on a date only to find out this person is nothing like you imagined? This is probably one the most common problems in online dating because it’s essentially dating in reverse, yes that’s right, online dating is dating in reverse. Usually, when you meet someone, you go on a date or a few, and then slowly start finding out if this person is right for you. However, when you’re dating online, you can talk for as long as a month, fall for the person’s personality and then realize that they’re not for you only after you’ve met them! The problem is that it’s too easy to create a false personality using online dating because users can carefully plan out their replies or Photoshop their pictures. This is why its better to arrange a Skype or phone call before meeting. Ultimately, the better your screening skills become, the better your dating experience will be and the less time you will wasted on sub-par dates. Plus, you can also consider the amount of money you’ll save because multiple dating can be expensive with drinks, transportation and time.

4.Taking it personally

Never lose sleep over an unsuccessful experience. If someone does not feel the same way, that issue is with them and not with you. The reality is that dating is not like buying a dog that loves us regardless– humans are far more complex. Also, the reasons for a failed effort can be endless: maybe they’ve met someone else, maybe you weren’t their match, or maybe you weren’t tall enough or short enough. Who knows? It doesn’t matter. What does matter is being the best possible person you can be, and spread positive energy to those you meet. In the end, if you keep taking everything personally, you’ll just feel frustrated and held back from growing through the dating process.

5. Not being prepared

Part of being a successful dater is being prepared. This means you must avoid ruts like falling into a slum, letting yourself go physically or not feeling stable when signing up for an online dating site. These types of behaviours will leave you feeling vulnerable. As mentioned in our first article, “ 5 steps for dating success”, we discussed personal development. You need to market yourself as a likeable person when entering the wild realm of online dating to fulfil your search for love. Yet, this does not mean you should avoid online dating, but rather you need to ne mentally and emotionally healthy before entering this experience.

6. Do not be “best friends” before you meet

When dating online, you should never jump into a crazy escapade of late night phone calls and constant texts right away. Sometimes when people leap at hyper-speed into the BFF territory, they become shocked and extremely disappointed when they realize they are no longer attracted. Now, there is nothing wrong with connecting with someone before you meet– who knows, it might turn out well. But, if you want to minimize disappointment, you must consider all possibilities. Ask your self, “what if?” and factor in the likelihood that it might not work out. You don’t want to waste your time on a relationship that will never move beyond a friendly partnership.

Different Types Of Singles Events

By Singles Events

Active Singles Events

Just like when you do something fun or active in day to day life activity- active singles event is practically the same but with single people. The benefit of such events are due to their low pressure environment, allowing people to be themselves. Some examples may be bushwalking or bike riding, tours,  quiz nights or any other form of activity that isn’t directly related to dating or singles events such as speed dating or other ‘pure dating mediums’.

Personal Introductions Agencies

These kinds of services are typically more tailored to an individuals needs, i.e. religious, demographic and other ‘personal data’. Each introductions agency will use their own match criteria to better your chances of finding a compatible partner. By using a more intimate process to find out about you on a personal level the match makers can refine each interaction and more carefully choose who they introduce you to. Heavily reducing failure and wasting time with the wrong matches so you get the most out of each dating experience and increase you chances of finding a long term partner. A lot of Introductions Agencies will also hold special Singles Events and other types of matching services- so it’s always good to ask them what else they offer.

Dinners

This type of introductions agency use a similar process to the above (personal introductions agency) but typically invite multiple participants- usually three of each gender. These types of Singles Events are more popular with 30 plus age groups- these events are also a good social platform for people new in town to meet new friends. This type of service is also typically associated with professionals and the time poor educated.

Speed Dating

The name says it all and in true fashion speed dating is possibly one of the only ways to meet multiple people in the shortest amount of time. This method of Singles Event doesn’t suit everyone but is still very popular and you can find weekly speed dating events throughout Australia for most age groups.

Singles Parties

As the name states a singles party is essentially just like a normal party but targeted towards singles. Typically with a larger amount of people than the other versions of Singles Events these parties can have over 100 people. Because of the large amount of people some vendors will create interactive games to ensure singles interact with each other in a relatively low pressure alternative than cold approaching by giving people an ice breaker.

Singles travel

 A singles travel company will organise a group of people to take on a tour. Some of the major differences can be the number of people and how the tour will operate. Often a little more intimate and relaxed than conventional Singles Events, this can be a good way to meet new people and enjoy a fun holiday.

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